by our resident storyteller, Victoria Stewart
One member said it was an example of resilience in a time of unexpected change. Another agreed because it proved people could deal with adversity. Then someone offered up that they didn’t think resilience was the right word to be using at all.
For those of you that don’t know, back at the end of May, when a water pipe burst one Sunday afternoon in the HQ of Impact Hub Brixton, it left such significant damage that the whole community using the space has had to up sticks and move to a whole new shared workspace for two months while repair work is carried out.
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In the end, things have worked out OK. Members temporarily settled in London’s different Impact Hubs, while others moved to the Shakespeare Business Centre in Loughborough Junction that we’ve made our temporary home, and overall there have been very few complaints about the glitch – bar a few swear words due to the intermittent internet signal.
In fact the whole community came together, accepted the change, and learnt to adapt to its new surroundings: lunches are now shared inside an open kitchen, while events have either carried on or have found different homes around Brixton.
Which brings us back to that that word resilience, and it got us thinking about what it means to different people. So allow me to pass the baton to three of our members – coaches Andry Anastasiou and Jawad Al-Nawab, and business co-founder Hannah Parris – to see what resilience means to them…
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Hubber Hannah Parris
HANNAH PARRIS
Who: co-founder of Mighty Good Undies, an ethical underwear business.
I think resilience means… being able to cope with change and the unexpected in a way that maintains your sanity and maintains your ability to function doing all the things you need to do – and hopefully being happy, too. I think it also means being absorbent in lots of ways.
I think the biggest thing that happened to me that required a lot of resilience… was the move to the other side of the planet, from Australia to the UK, aged 40. I was planning a life around the status quo, and I’d made that deliberate decision with somebody else, and then his circumstances changed, and that was quite unexpected, and I had to rip my whole life up. I didn’t think any of that was going to happen.
To maintain my sanity, I did a couple of things… I focused on the good things about coming over here. I didn’t say it was all OK, I actually acknowledged that it was tough, and actively planned for those tough things. So, for example, we gave ourselves 6 months to prepare for that transition, because that takes time. I focused on self-care, and not feeling guilty about that. So one of my things is that I need quiet time, otherwise I go bonkers and I remember it was December in Australia, so it was blazing hot and we had packed up our house in 35-40 degrees, we had no time to say goodbye to the city, and we were just running around. And at the time there was this movie that I hadn’t found the time to go and see… and in the end I just went to see it, even though my husband said we had too much to do. I walked away, saw it, and came back and got on with everything. I think you have to create that space when you need it.
Now I’m better at doing these things… I make sure I work from home at least once a week, and I’m better at saying no and not taking on too much, and I’m really careful about how I spend my time.
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Hubber Andry Anastasiou
ANDRY ANASTASIOU
Who: director of The Learning Moment, which provides professional coaching, workshops, focus groups, educational consultancy and wellbeing services.
Resilience means a lot to me both in terms of myself and the organisations that I work with… It’s really caught on as a term in the public eye. For me it means to bounce forward from adversity and challenge with new wisdom, new insight, and to create a strength. It’s been on my mind a lot lately in a lot of my work. In fact I was working with St George’s, University of London, where we did a programme on Career Resilience and how to stay personally and professionally resilient – so how to maintain your strength, energy and focus – in the face of challenges or things not going your way. I’m also doing a programme in Skyros in Greece in the summer about wellbeing [which feeds into this]. In my coaching work [I’ve had to be resilient] when staff in organisations I’m working with have left their roles. People are always dealing with the issue of ‘how do I find my way forward to my goal through this difficult time?’
I think a good personal and professional example was when… I first went full time with freelance work and it was the beginning of the recession.
I had some amazing work with government organisations doing learning projects and then my client base disappeared overnight and in a nutshell, the whole landscape changed for me. It took me up to a year to find my feet, plan, and trust my approach, which is that ‘I really like people, and I really like conversation’ and know that I could build business that way.
I also spent time with my own coach, thinking through my approach, strategy, and next steps, and over 6 months looking for small signs of success emerging and celebrating them. I think resilience is also about taking the lessons forward consciously, and from that I learnt two important things: I can pretty much survive any financial difficulty, and stay flexible and persistent, within the unknown.
Resilience isn’t this society’s idea of toughness, where everything’s meant to go over your head and you get on with things… It’s also not ‘I’ve climbed a mountain’ resilience. It’s the everyday resilience that you need, especially as a company director, where you often need to cope with change and challenge. Recently I had some personal challenges and I decided that I wanted to work part-time for a while. I had some really great projects so I decided to leave the facilitation and coordination and delivery of workshops to my team, which I’d never done before. So I stepped back, took two months to rest – I did a lot of nourishing self-care things like gardening and sitting about and eating good food – and then project managing things and doing some coaching. And my team stepped up in a way which blew my mind, and I came back feeling more physically and emotionally resilient. I learnt that I can trust my team to be there for me, and I can support them, and my clients were really happy too. It was an understanding of the relationship between self-care and personal resilience.
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Hubber Jawad Al-Nawab
JAWAD AL-NAWAB
Who: A mindfulness teacher who also teaches cycling, and who previously also worked in education and as a researcher at the national addiction centre.
I think resilience is a word that feels very loaded… I thought I didn’t really want to talk about it, and I found the term loathsome… but I looked up its etymological root because I wanted to see why resilience is a term that has been valorized. You see, the definitions that come up for resilience are: an ability to return to the original force, or an ability to recover readily from adversity, illness, depression. And these etymological roots are all about bouncing back, toughness, and being flexible. But implicit in these things is that if we’re not resilient, then what? Does that mean you’re a failure or incapable? My feeling is that we need to be careful that by using this word we’re not creating some sort of emotional prism. Where and when did resilience enter society and become valued? Because if resilience is synonymous with strength and toughness, perhaps we risk drifting into that ‘man-up’ kind of expression that everyone uses, and perhaps we actually need to unpack and interrogate that.
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Jawad Al-Nawab’s sketch about resilience
A big part of my backdrop is that I’m Iraqi-English, so I’ve had an ongoing journey with the dynamics of race, ethnicity, religion, post-Brexit, pre-Brexit, and the changing world and modernisation…
I’ve travelled extensively around the Middle East, lived in Jordan and Algeria around periods when there has been intense confusion and anger and hostility and suffering, some of which we see on the TV. And some of it’s connected with globalisation, modernisation, imperialism, and people being uprooted from traditional societies. I grew up in a community that prioritises virtue, charity, non-competition and selflessness, but then I also grew up in a culture that was dog-eat-dog-survival-of-the-fittest, and from the age of 9-10 I’ve suffered from what some people might call a debilitating weakness, which is anxiety, but which I think is actually a strength in the context of a social group. For example let’s say everyone goes swimming, I might be looking out for safety precautions where other people will be diving straight in. And we need both types of people, I think. Because there are many different types of humans, and who decides what the norm is?
I think I’d much rather be discussing and championing things and words like kindness, care, generosity, compassion and connection which…
I think in our culture takes courage, and which I think is underpinned by ethics and values. Evidence shows that we have increasing rates of self harm and suicide among young men in particular, and you could say it’s all about something having gone wrong in their brains, or you could say it’s the lack of fitness between what we’ve been evolved for, and the environment we’re now in. But, really, a lot of us share the same emotions and things that we find precious, like hope, fear of dying or loneliness or not having friends or not being valued, wanting the best for ourselves and the people around us. But where does that fit in the resilience model? I feel this old-school, cold-shower culture [that we know about from history] filters things in the wrong way.
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Hubber Jawad Al-Nawab’s sketches on resilience
In my own experience it took me, as a man, until the age of 40 to ask another man for help… I had a really bad injury and I asked a friend to stick around with me, which felt like a really embarrassing thing, because I was exposing myself – but he said of course. So is that resilience? It was a real human moment where I learnt something. Because I could have just said: ‘oh, I’ve only ruptured my kidneys, I’ve only passed out once, I’m only worrying about work for a month, and I’ll be back at work in a few weeks.’ So is one of those resilience and one not?
Finally, I thought about resilience in terms of something I saw after my mother died… A woman said to me that when something like that happens to you, it does leave a big impact on your life, and it’s emotionally charged, but that people can grow bigger, and begin to have a healthier relationship with that event. And I think it’s true in my own life because that grief is there and some things will trigger it, and it feels vivid and alive, but I’ve also learnt that it will pass, and that maybe it’s ok to just have that moment, or maybe to tell someone about that. And maybe that’s resilience, because those are the things that make me feel more human.
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