Today is International Women’s Day, and we thought that this was the perfect time to catch up with Helen Chapman, the Hub’s own Female Empowerment Coach (and Friday lunch genius). Helen works with female leaders to help them discover and live their highest calling. She helps women take a deep dive into themselves by using tried and tested techniques/meditations. Helen spoke with Ann Storr, resident Hub storyteller, about her work and journey (and the only food that can’t be microwaved is beetroot. You heard it here first).
I started my career as a tv production creative. I had the sense that I was occupying a very small attic inside a grand palace, so I quit and did that stereotypical thing, went to India. It was a huge step to take but it set me on my path: After I came back someone told me how Jungian analysis had changed his life. Two days later I’m sat in an analyst’s office. The work I went through there healed and revealed to me a lot of issues and allowed me to see the world differently.
We are at an unprecedented place in history. The change in women’s role in society over the past 50 years is unique, moving from the role of mother and wife to fighting for equal pay. Translational psychologists call this a “discriminating dilemma’ – women are redefining themselves and exposing their masculine sides.

The wonderful Helen herself
It’s tricky though, raising new problems: can I be vulnerable at work without losing my power? Can I have a purpose and be intimate with someone? Women are catapulting up the tiers of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs and that’s so exciting.
We are all evolving against our biology, redefining what leadership is. We don’t want to parrot what men have defined as leadership. This isn’t to dismiss men or say that they’re not awake to change, it’s just that they haven’t needed to question their linear way of thinking and women have. We’re asking men to be more relational in their thinking and behaviour, which is against their biology.
When a woman comes to me it’s because she’s trying to work out what her highest calling is. I help them to find their power centre and build an unshakeable bond with their higher self and smaller self. The barriers that she faces are probably not external, they are probably barriers that she has inside herself. If we don’t feel great then, when life goes wrong, it’s hard to stay aligned. I call it the anti-fragile approach because it creates strength from within.
However idyllic a childhood someone has, there’s always some trauma to unpack. When you’re a child, you think that the sun follows you around. This has huge consequences because we think that everything is under our control, good and bad, so we take on too much guilt. Once we unlock these aspects we can start to learn what we are here to do that is uniquely us, who are we here to serve?
In an increasingly uncertain world women’s non-linear approach is a benefit and is going to lead to more awareness, more creativity.
I ask little questions to my clients: What lights you up? What do your friends say you do well but you don’t even notice? My questions are an invitation to adopt a state of being where they can live in a state of wonder, being open and curious to the world. If they can break through their barriers and live aligned with their consciousness, they can find what lights them up.
We often know the answers to our problems but we don’t trust our intuition; we’re slow moving cargo ships in the middle of the Atlantic. If we’re lucky enough to have people who can see our blind-spots, they can mirror what our true self is emitting. That distance betweenwhat we are emitting, what we are called to do, and what we think we should do, when they’re not aligned, that’s the problem.
Working to 5 years plans just doesn’t work anymore. Life is so unpredictable and the old female ways of knowing and being are now critical in leading the new epoch of helping with that unpredictability. Women are primed for this way of life.
I’m not a patriarchy basher but that system doesn’t serve us any longer. A lot of times women can’t put their finger on what the problem is so it presents as low grade depression or anxiety. This is connected to unrealised potential. They are aware of shifts that are happening. They can feel the possibilities but they don’t know how to be.
This weekend I’m giving a talk at Hatch to celebrate ‘International Women’s Day’. We’re living through unprecedented times with the internet connecting us globally. Most people influence around 1,000 people in their lifetimes. Excited, innovative and dynamic people like Hubbers and Hatchers could increase their influence around 10K or 100K: that’s so exciting. If you only need to change the minds of 5% of a population to shift a population’s beliefs, then together our influence could be huge.
We are living in times that have never been experienced before. And I’m so excited.
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